Could you put others first, and considered yourself next?

I have so much to share at this moment; my life and entire existence have a changed perspective.  It’s time to move on to more meaningful pursuits.  I am delight to share with all of you one of is my precious book that is with me from the time I got my life back fews months ago, nothing is for granted, nothing is for sure; but to be happy and help others with enlightenment and clear energies to creating inner peace and more happy  world.  We can do all together, we are all available to be happy!  by Luz A. Lovern

Cherishing Others as a Way to Happiness.

Mistake: being Egotistical

Could you put others first, and considered yourself next?  Surprisingly, perhaps, you will find that this approach works even from a selfish viewpoint.  Let me explain how this is possible.  You want happiness and do not want suffering, and if you show other people kindness, love, and respect, they will respond in kind, increasing your happiness.  If you show other people anger and hatred, they will show you the same, and you will lose your own happiness.

So, I say, If you are selfish, be “wisely selfish”.  Ordinary selfishness focuses only on your own needs, but if you are wisely selfish, you will treat everyone just as well as you now treat those close to you.  this strategy will produce more satisfaction for you, and more happiness.  So, even from a selfish viewpoint, you get better results by respecting others, serving others, and reducing your own self-centeredness.

By wisely selfish.  Wise people serve others sincerely, putting the needs of others above their own.  The ultimate result will be that you will get more happiness.  The kind of selfishness that sets off fighting, quarreling, stealing harsh words -forgetting others people’s welfare, always thinking “I am, I am, I am” -will result in your own loss.  Others may speak nice words in front of you, but behind your back they will not speak so nicely.  They will make note of our selfishness and respond in kind.  They remedy is to be sincerely concerned with the well-being of others, and to act accordingly.

After all, even thought currently you may not be concerned with other people, you are very much concerned with yourself, no question about it, which mean that you must want to achieve a peaceful mind and a happier daily life.  The best way to do that is by practicing more kindness and tolerance.  There is no need to change the furniture in your house, or move to a new home.  Your neighbor may be very noisy, or very difficult, but so long as your own mind is calm and peaceful, neighbors will not bother you much.  If you are calm, even your enemy cannot disturb you.  However, if you are generally irritable, even when your best friend visits, you cannot became really happy.

This is why I say that you are better off being wisely selfish.  This way you can fulfill your selfish motive to be happy.  That is much better than being self-centered, or foolishly selfish, which will not succeed in bringing you more happiness.

Thy this approach.  I think you will be delighted with the result.

From the Book of Holiness Dalai Lama “How to be Compassionate” translated and edited by Jeffrey Hopkins